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To All Soldiers who we Remember on Anzac Day!

To all soldiers who we remember on Anzac Day, I say thank you!  So many men and women gave their lives for our country, even up to 2014.  These amazing individuals, some of them kids themselves, volunteered to serve their country.  To head into the unknown and get killed in those fields.  They did it for us and I say thank you.

Every time, I see someone collecting money to help families and loved ones if our fallen soldiers, I put money in their tins.  I do not do it for a badge, many look at me in surprise, but I always say it is my way to say thank you.  It was also special when Emma was telling Steve that they put money in the tin to say thank you.

So many lives have been lost to war and we simply have not learnt.  Why are people still being sent to fight against others?  In the words of the Dalai Lama, simply because we can not treat others simply as human beings.  If we took away all the labels eg race, religion, sex and treat each person as a human beings there would be no reason to send people off to fight and possibly not come back.

Coaching for Lifetime Change says thank you.

Show Yourself Some Love

As mums and dads we all want to be a good parent however we all have our good and bad days.  You might have over reacted to a situation, you may have yelled at your child.  I know being a mum with two children with autism, it can be extremely frustrating when they are loosing emotional control.  None of us are perfect but the important thing to remember is to:

 

Show Yourself Some Love!

It is ok to wrap your arms around yourself and remind yourself that we all have bad days and you are still a great mum and dad.

Celebrating Each Other Achievements

Well before I met Steve he was heavily into triathlons, cycling, marathons.  Since we have been together, I and now his girls have been at most have been at the finishing lines.  The girls even managed to support dad through his ninth triathlon ironman Melbourne which was an amazing effort.  But it is a part of our family to be there for each other achievements so that we can celebrate them as a family.

Today, we were at the Kinglake cycling event and it was sad to see people crossing over the line and looking for loved ones and no one was there to support them.  Mind you it is an event that really isn’t for supporters.  But there we stood waiting for Steve and my sister to cross over the line.

It is important to celebrate each others achievements no matter how big or small they are.

Lessons From a Half Marathon

Grace at half marathon  One goal I have had for approximately 6 months was to complete a half marathon (definitely bit off more than I could chew with this goal).  I found it challenging remaining motivated after a while and then it did not help to have the flu for a good three weeks.  The day before the Shepparton half marathon Grace also had her first calisthenics competition but that is for another post.  But all I could think about how selfish I was for dragging them to Shepparton after such a hectic Saturday.  But I was determined to do this race mainly to tick it off my goal list so I do not have to worry about it anymore.

Then on race day poor Emma was bitten all over by bugs in her bed so she was definitely not a happy camper and I felt even worse for doing this race.  But I managed, with Steve’s support, to get to the starting line.

 

 

From the minute the person said go I was given a lot of lessons about myself and I thought I would take the time to share them with you.

  • In my head I knew that I would pretty much have to walk the distance as I had not recovered from the flu but I was not prepared to be walking by myself and everyone else had run off.  Steve must have known how I would feel about being “last” and messaged me to keep going.
  • I was not really prepared for being pushed off the track by inconsiderate runners as I had every right to be there.  But it helped me to steal myself to keep my line.
  • I was not prepared for how much of the walk was going to test my mind set but I found this helpful because I challenged the thoughts of stopping as I felt I was not good enough.  But I kept going.
  • About half way I noticed that I could hardly bend my right hand fingers and I looked at them and realised that my whole right arm was swollen and double the side.  Now this would have been the perfect time to quit with a good excuse but the first thing I thought was I’m not going to stop because I was half way through the event.
  • I realised how important it is stop and give my loved ones a kiss as they were out there waiting for me and just spending a minute helped me top up to get me to the end.  I knew there were cheering me on.  Steve also stops when he is racing to have a cuddle with the girl even if he was racing well as nothing is more important as family. I also saw the lead of the marathon stop for a cuddle with his child.
  • It was inspiring to see a 70 year old power walking the marathon so at least I was not the only one walking.
  • It was inspiring to see a guy with a physical disability completing the marathon as well.
  • My feet started to kill (its three days after the marathon and I am struggling walking on the massive blood blisters and knowing that I might loose a toe nail) but I kept going.
  • My personal trainer also came and found me after he finished and walked the rest of the way with me (thank god he had some juice on him as the tank was empty) and I felt that he really teaches the importance of being a team and helping each other out.
  • I did not give up and I crossed the line at 3:15 and it was a PB by 15 minutes.
  • I am stronger than what I give myself credit for.

 

 

 

Funny Thoughts When Announcing Pregnancies.

I have a secret to share with you as I am sure (hope anyway) that someone else felt this way.  LOL

When I announced my pregnancy I was more embarrassed about it because then people knew what Steve and I were doing.

What other funny thoughts that you had?

 

A Way To Get Healthier and Feel Better

In this weeks Sunday Herald-Sun they had an article about ways you can make yourself healthier in simply 10 minutes. As mums and dads we need to look after ourselves so that we are operating at optimal best for our children.  So see what you can do to improve your quality of life.

Workout in the TV breaks

Instead of watching TV why not use the ad breaks to do star jumps, sit ups, push ups, running on the spot to keep our body moving.

Write a meal plan

Work out ahead your meal plans and write down what you eat to make sure you choose healthy options.

Calm down

Take time daily to meditate (one activity I love to do at the start of the day and at the end of the day)

Make small gestures

Rather than relying on overt displays of affection, it was small gestures like saying thank you, serving cups of teas in bed that can keep a couple together.

Exercise

Exercising is extremely important for everyone’s health. But it is important that you do exercise that you enjoy as if you do not enjoy it then you will not do it.

Take longer to prepare dinner

So that you can put some vegetables away for during the day as easy snacks.

 

 

Great Tip For Children Who Read!

My eldest is six months into prep and she is doing well with her reading.  I am lucky to have a child who has always enjoyed looking at books.  However just like every other child she too goes through stages where she is not motivated when reading. Her posture is slumped, she is pretty much mumbling and as a parent this can be frustrating to say the least.

What I get Grace to do when she is in one of these moods is get up and do 10 star jumps, 10 frog jumps and anything to get her moving.  The outcome is always a bit of a laugh but there is definitely an improvement in her reading.

This is also a great way to keep learning to a maximum if they are studying etc.

boy reading book at the library

Children’s Names That Will Only Lead To Bullying

What kind of name is North West?

Kim complains that the media tend to pick on her about everything and anything and then they name their child North West.  Someone honestly needs to smack her over the head and scream at her that naming their child something so ridiculous is only going to aim more bullying towards their child.  Imagine the jokes that children are going to put the poor thing through. It is bad enough that they have sold their child to the highest magazine bidder.

Parent’s really need to think about the consequence of choosing strange names and the affect it will have on the child.  We all do not want to our children to be bullied but why set them up from day one with a name like North, Apple and the list goes on.

What are the strangest names that you have heard parents call their child?

 

When Life Gets Out of Control!

That pretty much sums up the last few weeks in my household.  We have decided to build a bigger pergola outside, get the garage fixed, fix the roof and it is all happening at the same time.  There has been many hours spent outside knocking down walls (which was great fun), bringing down the old pergola and then painting all the beams (even at night at 3 degrees).  Plus normal life also had to happen at the same time.  I became quite good to listening to Grace’s reading whilst painting.  I also had to deal with my mum’s first year anniversary which was far from easy.

It got to mid last week and I was tired, grumpy, irritable and was not a lot of fun. Plus we were not spending quality time with the girls.  The girls helped us outside but it was not the same.  The girl’s behaviour became challenging and it increased their anxiety with all the changes that were happening. Steve and I were stuck in a hard spot because we couldn’t work out if it would be better to get it done so it is done or slow it down to spend time with the girls.  But I knew with everything going on at the same time I was going to crash.  I put my training on hold (but I could say I was doing a lot of strength work), my eating was not regular and generally I was not looking after myself.

I made the decision to stop it and get back into my exercise with a 16km walk and I have been making sure I have had some down time to relax a bit.  When life gets crazy and your feeling your about to fall off the track, you need to take a deep breath and re-establish some old routine to get you through it. I know that I became a better mum once I started exercising as I was laughing and bouncing around more.  I hate the out of control Bec.

 

Why Do People Bother To Talk To Each Other

Today I was sitting having some morning tea with Emma and I was flabbergasted by the people at the table behind us.  I usually do not listen to other people’s conversations but honestly you couldn’t not listen with the male talking so loud.  The general gist of the conversation was him belittling his partner about hurting her ankle and needing surgery.  He was saying how he could not trust her, she was putting him out, she was hopeless and the list went on.  The same thing happened the day before coming out of Airport West Shopping Centre but the F word was used every couple of words.

I was in an emotional abusive relationship for 2 years and I know how hard it is to get out of those relationships. I still crumble if I am spoken to even slightly harshly as I spent 2 years feeling like I was walking on egg shells.  But really where is society going if people think it is OK to talk to people like that?  How would those individuals like to be spoken to like that every single day.  My heart sank as all I could think about was that these two people may develop a better action plan if they communicated better with each other.

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