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Do You Know Your Partner’s Dreams?








Dreams are extremely important in marriages.  Do you know your partner’s dreams?

Realising your partner’s dreams should be one of your goals of marriage.

In happy marriages partners incorporate each other’s goals into their concept of what their marriage is about.  These goals can be as concrete as wanting to live in a certain kind of house or to get a certain academic degree.

There are dreams that are also hidden due to the lack of respect.  By respecting each other, it can help get out of conflicts.  But when do you know when a hidden dream is the core of an issue?  Simply by uncovering this dream can get the couple out of gridlock with respect.

A lot of dreams can be hidden or forgotten amongst families with children with Autism and Sensory Processing Disorder.  Plus it is the same for a lot of families.  They put all of their energies on the children and making sure that they are meeting all of their needs but forget their needs.

If these dreams are left hidden, feelings of resentment and loneliness. If these feelings are left to stew, relationships are going to struggle.

In Steve’s and I relationship, he has always followed his sporting dreams of Triathlons and surf ski sports.  His dreams have always been to have his family at the finish and that is where we always are.  Steve is supporting my dreams to help families with Autism.  Steve supports me with everything.

In all of my programs, we look at dreams and uncover these hidden dreams so that these are not part of issues.  It is a fantastic to see people living their dreams.  You can too.

Small Gestures Improve Relationships

Renew relationshipDo you know that daily small gestures improve relationships?

I am reading (for the 4th times) The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson.  It is a book that brings together pretty much all motivation and personal development into one.  Jeff Olson states that it is the small daily steps done continuously will always get you to the goals.

The same concept can apply to all areas in your life.

Imagine if you did small things that show your family how much you love them.  What do you think would happen?  It doesn’t have to be anything that costs anything, just simple things that would improve your relationships.

Even when the hurdles of life come into play, the small gestures is what will keep your relationship strong.

Another way you can look at it is picture your bank account.  If you did small gestures every day, even when tough time comes the amount of gestures in your gesture bank account will always out weigh the tough times.

I give you the challenge to test this concept out on your relationships.  The challenge is to do small daily activities to improve your relationship with your loved ones for the next month and head to my facebook page Coaching for Lifetime Change and share with how you are going.


Our Secret Night Time Routine

Secret night time routineI want to share our secret night time routine that we have with the girls.  We have battled since day 1 with the girls sleep and we have always done what works for the girls.  At times it has been at the expense of our relationship but when you do not find an answer for 4 years, a lot of couples are left in the same situation.

We tried the control crying for a while but we always struggled with the concept that we are there when they need us during the day but not at night time.  Plus it hurt us more listening to them cry so it was definitely not one that we used for more than 2 months straight with no improvement. We tried bunking in for a while and it worked to some extent (minus the aches and pains of sleeping on a mattress. We have music going in their rooms even now that Grace is 7 years of age.

Nevertheless, our little secret night time routine we can not seem to break.  With melatonin the battle of getting the girls down to sleep has finished but Steve and I can not seem to make ourselves stop watching them whilst they sleep for a while.  We read them a book before bed and we kiss then to sleep and then we simply watch them whilst they sleep.  Steve also sees it as an opportunity to fall asleep as well. But to watch how peaceful and calm they are when they sleep it is simply amazing.

We both feel that just taking time to watch them sleep enhances to strengthen the relationship with the girls especially at an end of a bad day as it just brings back how much we love the girls.



Secret Family Relationship 1|Coaching for Lifetime Change

The one relationship that my dad always taught me and it still is important now that I am married and have children and I am going to share it with you.