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Reading Books Improves Your Wellbeing.

Book readingDo you know that reading books improves your wellbeing?  In this months Wellbeing magazine www.wellbeing.com.au there is an extremely interesting article on how a book can improve your wellbeing.

Bibliotherapy which is a blend of science of psychology and the art of literature is used by therapists in the UK prescribe books suffering from mild to moderate mental illness.

 

The Black Dog Institute of Australia also encourages clients to read books as it is:

  • a healthy distraction from the stresses of daily life
  • gives your body a chance to relax
  • help eases muscular tension and frazzled nerves
  • it can improve your mood
  • stimulate creativity
  • encourage empathy.

Examples of books on prescription are:

  • Changing Your Thinking by Sarah Edelman which I really recommend
  • Battling the Blues by Sue Tanner and Jill Ball

The slower you read the more chance you can really escape into the book’s world.  I know today when I was feeling down, I picked up A Book Thief and it picked up my mood.

Yay Children Are Back At School (Happy Dance)

Are we all celebrating that children are back at school?  I know for me I was slightly relieved that Grace has gone back but I do miss her chatter.  For a child with autism, holidays can be extremely tough so Grace found it hard to manage her anxiety everyday without having the school routine.

Nevertheless, it is extremely important now that mums and dads both complete some self care activities everyday.  Now I am not saying that you have to do something extravagant everyday but it is important even if you take 5 minutes out of your day to look after yourself.

It is extremely common that mums and dads put their own needs last and feel guilty for putting their needs first.  But reality is, if YOU are not putting your needs and you become sick then what good are you to the rest of the family.  It is imperative that YOU put yourself first and make sure you are doing something for yourself.

Examples of this could be:

  • Taking time to read the newspaper
  • Reading a book
  • Painting your finger nails
  • Calling a friend
  • Having a massage
  • Having a date with partner
  • Having a coffee and simply relaxing
  • Meditating

Over the month of February, we are having a challenge of completing 28 days of self care activities.  Plus if you are signed up for my newsletter, complete and share your activities each day you will be in the running to win my first giveaway of a product that I simply love.  Believe me my skin has never looked better.  So make sure you are signed up for my newsletter, pop into my facebook page to share your self care ideas and you could win this magnificent prize.

Unblock the Situations That is Stopping You From Creating A Thriving Family Relationship.

This video is to help you to unblock any situation that is blocking you from taking the steps to create a thriving family relationship. If you want to know more about how I can help you, look under the service page and provide me with your contact details so I can give you a call to see how you and your family can create thriving relationships no matter what your situation is. I learnt this process from Christian Mickelson.

We Only Talk About The Children

How often do we hear that when you have time with your partner you only talk about the children.  For Steve and I we make time for children talk as that is always essential that both parents are on the same page in regards to the girls.

But when we are just spending time together we try our very best not to talk about the girls.  I do remember our first date night and we went out for dinner not far from home as it was our first time leaving them.  But we made the rule that we were not allowed to talk about the girls.  My goodness let me tell you it was like a first date because we were so used talking about the girls, we became out of practice about talking about other things.

It is a great time to touch base with each other and see how both individuals are travelling and talking openly to each other.

The “Pros and Cons” About Becoming a Parent

I can hear people right now stomping their feet to my front door and coming with pitch forks screaming “You are lucky to be able to have children”, “You chose to have children” and all the rest of it.  I am hoping that some of you might actually read the rest of this article and may find this activity really beneficial.

Once you have little one in your arms, have you ever told your partner what you love about being a parent and what you do not look about becoming a parent?

Research shows that simply acknowledging the good and bad things about becoming a parent is actually a very healthy activity for parent’s to do.  By being able to talk about our thoughts in a constructive and safe environment, mums and dads can feel that they are being heard in regards to their thoughts of becoming a parent.

I remember thinking I was prepared for the change and that I will not be able to simply go out and catch up with friends and accepting the new journey I was about to embark on.  But honestly and I would love to hear from other mums and dads if they were truly prepared as much as you thought you were.  But be acknowledging the differences can be extremely therapeutic as you can let it out of your head and also let it go.

Is it a crime to do this?  Hell no.  If every parent did this activity, we might see a trend of people transitioning to parenthood a lot easier than what a lot of parent’s are at this stage.

I did not do this activity until I did volunteer training at PANDA and it really stuck with me that it is OK to say what we love and may be what we are still learning to adjust to. On my list were:

What I love:

  • That they were created out of love
  • Their little hands and toes
  • That we got through the birth process
  • Their little noises

What I Did Not Like:

  • PND (Postnatal depression)
  • My older child’s constant crying (boy does she have a set of lungs)
  • Breastfeeding (I had trouble with supply but was not confident who to call for help and Grace never attached)
  • Not being able to work
  • Not catching up with people as much as I used to.

Maybe my next post should be a follow up to the pros and cons and see how much things have changed.  I have attached below a sheet that mums and dads can use to do this activity at home.  Do not judge or analyse what people put on their list as it needs to be done in a safe environment so those thoughts can be acknowledged and then put aside.

Good and Bad stuff chart (Printable)

 

 

Define Your Life Purpose

Have you ever defined your life purpose or ever taken the time to think about what your purpose in life truly is?  The below link to my video will help you define your life purpose.

Defining your life purpose (Click here)

 

Reference: Jack Canfield (2005) The Success Principles – How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

When Your Day Is Tough

One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours  as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally he decided the animal was old,  and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the  donkey.

He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a  shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to  everyone’s amazement, he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally  looked down the well, and was astonished at what he saw.

With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing.  He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer’s neighbours continued to  shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon,  everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and  trotted off! Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is  to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a stepping stone. We can  get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and  keep going!

10 Steps To Lifelong Happiness

In the Melbourne Sunday Herald Sun on 11/11/12 there was an article based on 10 Steps to Lifelong Happiness.

1.  Take Charge – make the choice to own up to your true potential and step into your brilliance.  We need to definitely get rid of all the excuses we can give.

2.  Let it go – Don’t waste energy trying to change or alter things that are well beyond your control. Focus on the things that are in your influence and find a peaceful acceptance of the rest.

3.  Live for now – Forget the past as that is something we can not change.  Don’t spend too much time dreaming about the future. But simply focus on today and making the moments the best you can.

4.  Expect the best – optimism is about expectation; expect the best and from life and it will deliver.

5.  Back yourself – You need to learn to believe in your dreams, your ideas and yourself. If you truly believe its amazing what becomes possible.

6.  Give all you can – be generous, not just with the gifts that you give but also how you give to yourself.

7.  Get out of the way – the only person who can really hold you back in life is you.  Overcome your limiting beliefs, ideas and attitudes and give yourself permission to truly shine.

8.  Be grateful – when you focus on how much you already have, your true desires will be easily met and you will also discover how little you genuinely need.

9.  Keep it up – don’t give up or choose a more complacent path should this take longer than you might have wished.

10.  Be brave

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