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Relatives

Do you remember when you held your niece/nephew for the first time?

What were you looking forward in doing with your niece/nephew?

 

 

You may have been recently been told that your niece/nephew is on the Autism Spectrum Disorder or may have Sensory Processing Disorder.  You may not know what to expect now that they have received this diagnosis but I do encourage you to read some helpful information sheets for some understanding.

For Aspergers Tony Attwood http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/index.php/about-aspergers

For Autism Amaze http://www.amaze.org.au/discover/

For Sensory Processing Disorder:  http://www.spdfoundation.net/about-sensory-processing-disorder/

Nevertheless, your niece/nephew is still the same child they were before the diagnosis.  The diagnosis will help get them the help that they need to blossom in the future.  So please do not see the diagnosis as something negative because scientific research shows that early intervention does provide your niece/nephew the best opportunity in life.

Belief in Autism and Sensory Processing Disorder

You may not actually believe in the diagnosis and I do encourage you to learn about the Autism and Sensory Processing Disorder.  I would really encourage you to look at your beliefs because our beliefs are driven by our generalization about what we’ve learned.  A lot of disability prejudice is fuelled by a wholesale generalization about an entire group of people.  Every child is different.

Our beliefs also have the power to create and the power to destroy.  Imagine if you understood your niece/nephew and what the diagnosis meant for them would mean with your relationship with him/her.   If you refused to believe the diagnosis you also have the power to destroy your relationship with your niece/nephew.

Challenging Parenting Skills

A lot of people believe that these children need some good old discipline.  I do not know anyone who has said to me that with all the strategies that are provided by professionals that it does not challenge their parenting skills.  It is also very easy to parent someone else’s child from a distance.   However, from learning what works for your niece/nephew will strengthen your relationship with him/her.

How to Build Your Relationship With Your Niece/Nephew

  • Love them just like you did the first time you held them.
  • Get involved in their interests as that is a fabulous way to get interaction from them.
  • Understand them and encourage them.

Support

Your brother/sister need your support. You do not need the solution but to just listen.  Sometimes, they just need to get things off their chest just like anyone else.

If you would like any suggestions on how you could develop a relationship with your niece/nephew, I would love to hear from you on Rebecca@Coachingforlifetimechange.com.au

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