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Do you remember the first time you held your child in your arms? 

Do you remember looking at their eyes, nose, mouth, fingers, toes?

Do you remember what your dreams were for your child?

Here in your arms is your son/daughter.  Did you sit there thinking “I wonder if my child would be on the Autism Spectrum or Sensory Processing Disorder?”  I do not know any first time mums who would have asked themselves this question.  A parent who may already have a child who has been diagnosed may have wondered about the possibility.  But the majority of mums would be enjoying the moment.

I remember when I worked with children with Autism, I did wonder if I would have a child with Autism.  But at no stage did I think it would happen to my future children.

Nevertheless, you are here reading this page and so I assume you are in the process or have had a child diagnosed on the Autism Spectrum Disorder or with Sensory Processing Disorder.  It is a long journey with the diagnosis process and it does not prepare you for the diagnosis.  Believe me it was not easy for my husband and I to hear either and we suspected that we would get the diagnosis.

You would be asking yourself so many right now.  For instance:

  • What is the future be for my child?
  • What do we do now?
  • How am I meant to build a relationship?
  • Will my child be bullied at school.

I want to reach out to you right now and always remember getting your child help right now is one of the best things you have done.  With the right professional help your child can have a bright future.  Research demonstrates that receiving early intervention, their likelihood of success in the future.

Mother’s Guilt

It is quite normal for you to wonder was there something you did:

  • Did you do something wrong during your pregnancy?
  • Did you eat something that you shouldn’t have?
  • Were you under stress throughout your pregnancy?

This is a big area for all mums.  There are so many myths out there on the causes of Autism that aim a lot about what the mother did wrong.  Please remember that the majority are simply claims and very little scientific research behind it. 

In the program After An ASD or SPD Diagnosis, we take the time to look at mothers guilt so that you can move through it and be reassured you did not do anything wrong to cause your child’s Autism.  This can also be looked at in all other programs as it is an area that can hinder you moving into the future.

Grief

How much help did you receive with dealing with grief?  It is quite surprising that so many people do not get any help with the grief cycle.  A lot of people do not realise that that was grief that they went through and in hindsight they wish that they knew it.  Very sadly, there are individuals that have not made it through the grief cycle and that is hindering in every aspect of their life.

Parenting Skills

As parents we bring to our relationship with perceived ideas of what kind of parent we would like to be.  Some of these ideas may have come from our own parents, grandparents or other people.  We will also have our own thoughts of how we would like to parent.

Throughout your early intervention, professionals will make suggestions on how to manage behaviour etc that will suit your child.  Some of these suggestions may challenge your beliefs on how to raise your child.  They will also challenge your own emotions which is extremely hard.  However, we need to remember that our own perceived ideas are just ideas and can be changed.  The suggestions are also for the well being of your child which will improve your relationship with your child and it will immense effects on everyone’s relationships.

I will be soon offering an emotion coaching program for the whole family.  I have used it on my own family and honestly the change in our relationship has been huge.  My youngest is now coming up to me saying “I love you mummy” without any prompting.

Relationship with Partner

Relationship distress is quite common amongst families as they move through all the ups and downs of raising a child on the spectrum.  Every decision is for the best of the child and usually the relationship is the last to be nurtured.

In the program Strengthening Partner Relationships, we look at how the relationship is currently functioning and we look at the basics of the relationship.  Then we build a strong foundation that will make the relationship between partners remain strong even when there are hurdles to get over.

Who am I?

Do you feel that your own dreams and hopes have been lost by being:

  • Mum
  • Therapist
  • Cleaner
  • Cook

In the program It’s Time to Look After Me is all about you.  By investing in YOU, you will be the person you want to be. You will strengthen your relationship with all your family members.  You will have a new lease on life.

Reconnecting With Your Child

I want to really reach out to you and reassure you that although your child may have a diagnosis you can still have a wonderful relationship with your child.  It may be different to what you dreamed but by getting into what your child enjoys will let you both develop a meaningful relationship.

The program Connect With Your Child is all about you building a relationship your child.  We all dream of how we would love to see our relationship with our child being but sadly it may not be reality.  No matter what the situation is there are always ways you can interact with your child.  Your child will always need you so let us build those foundations.

If YOU need any help, please do not hesitate to drop me an email at Rebecca@Coachingforlifetimechange.com.au.  I do endeavour to get back to you within 24 hours.

You are not alone. 

 

 

 

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