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Can I Make a Bargain With You?

How many times have you said to yourself “I would do anything for me to have autism and not my child. Why can’t it be me?”  I know I have said it numerous times especially at the start.  This is usually the bargain grief stage is the next stage after anger for parents when dealing with the grief cycle.

Several themes emerge as parents travel the road to acceptance.  Initially they struggle with the symptoms of autism.  Time stops as parents initially become very upset with their child’s difficulties and then they begin the protected journey of putting together the appropriate interventions.

However, at this stage parents hope for a way out, find a cure.  They tend to bargain with high powers to take the diagnosis away from the child in place on inflicting pain on themselves.

If you are stuck in the bargaining part of the grief cycle or simply want to talk to someone who understand, please do not hesitate to contact me on  Sometimes it is easier to talk to some who understands.

I Can Not Get My Head Around The Diagnosis

It is extremely important the realise that no matter if you were expecting a diagnosis or not that we all go through a grief cycle.  The first part of this grief cycle is denial.

The function of denial for the majority of us is that is creates a necessary buffer zone as it takes us time to deal with a new reality.  Feeling a reaction of denial is perfectly normal and healthy.

The function of denial is that it makes the pain bearable until we find our inner strength to move on and find the supports to help us.

If you need to talk to someone about how you are feeling in this stage, please do not hesitate to contact me through email  I am here for you as this is not easy.

Tomorrow I will put up a post about anger.