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Really Easy Way To Improve Your Relationship!

Do you want to learn a really easy way to improve your relationship?  Keep on reading.

Have an honest reflection on where you are currently with your partner and answer this question “Are you currently turning away or towards you partner?” This is a really tough question to answer, however, it is a good question to see where your relationship is currently at.

Relationships will always go through stressful periods. This can range from having children on the Autism Spectrum, financial, medical, mental health etc. A recent period of stress on my relationship with my husband is when I was suffering the side effects of medication. My mental well being went into the darkness that I never thought I would go back into and believe me I had myself convinced that my husband and I were on the road to separation.

I remember sitting in a course by Wendy Jacobs a few months ago and she said that even if one of you make changes to improve your relationship, your partner will naturally change. I have to admit when I heard this I was very sceptical because a relationship is a partnership and if only one person changes then how will this benefit a relationship?

I have been studying the work of John Gottman and in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, he talks a lot about couples turning towards each other than away. He states that if you turn regularly towards each other you are strengthening your relationship which will assist when you hit stressful patches. By turning towards each other is the key to long lasting romance.

I decided to put all of this into an experiment after our stressful period. I know my husband hates when I am not fully listening to him. However, in my defence I am pretty certain that I have auditory processing troubles as I have always had trouble processing what people are saying when there is other noises around.

Nevertheless, I made the conscious decision that when he comes in from work, I stop and see how his day is. If he talks to me, I make sure I am looking at him rather than continuing with what I am doing. These are just small changes that I have made myself to see what would happen.

So what is the end result when I make the effort to turn towards my husband? He is actually turning more towards me again. By making this small change, has opened up the connection between my husband and I again.

What small change can you make in your relationship to help you to turn towards each other again?

A Deep Friendship with Partner Leads To Happy Marriages

Do you have a deep friendship with your partner?   Do you know that a deep friendship with partner leads to happy marriages?

After reading The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, PH.D and Nan Silver, I have realised the importance of having a deep friendship with your partner in order for it to lead to a happy marriage.  John describes this friendship ‘as having a mutual respect and enjoyment in each other’s company.  These couples tend to know each other intimately – they are well versed in each other’s likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes, and dreams.  They have an abiding regard for each other and express this fondness not just in the big ways but in little ways day in and day out.

Most marriages or partnerships start off well with a lot of positivity and there would be little thought of the marriage ending in divorce.  However, over time little resentments can build with particular quirks, annoyance etc.  After the birth of a child, the marriage is further tested as the attention goes from the partnership to the child.  Then you add sleep deprivation and hardship into the mix and there is no wonder why so many marriages end after the first few years of a child coming into the family.

Now if you are thinking my goodness my marriage is going to end in divorce.  There is a lot you can do between now and then.  In my Reinvigorate Your Relationship with my Partner we will work together step by step so that we can rebuild the friendship and take you off the divorce statistics.  Believe me my program is so much cheaper than a divorce and it has more value than a divorce can possibly give you.

The question is do you want to reinvigorate your relationship?

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